• Ben Yates

How to deal with feeling overwhelmed

We all struggle with overwhelm.

Millions of us feel overwhelmed daily.

Busy social calendars, financial concerns, the pressures of social media and keeping up with Dave, who you’ve not seen for 20 years but has the latest Range Rover and has just got back from an all-inclusive.

You know, the modern-day pressures we all face.

Not the age-old problems of finding food, shelter, warmth and fighting off wild animal attacks.

If you drop a frog into a shallow pot of boiling water, he'll jump out immediately. But if you place him in the water at room temperature, then gradually bring the liquid to a boil, the frog doesn't notice until it's too late

An ever-expanding lifestyle is imperceptible at first until it's too late

What is overwhelm?

Definition: If you are overwhelmed by a feeling or event, it affects you strongly, and you do not know how to deal with it.

Imagine feeling buried under a mountain of tasks that all need doing 'right now'.

Swamped by numerous demands on your time or overloaded by things needing your attention and focus.

Ultimately if you let it carry on, you'll feel overpowered and defeated as the volume becomes simply too much to cope with.

Feeling overwhelmed is a deep emotional response to countless, disorganised and unprioritised thoughts and experiences.

Wanting to lose weight can be overwhelming.

You feel like you're at the bottom of a mountain that you've been asked to climb.

You don't have a map of the best route to travel, you're not sure what the right tools for the job are and the summit looks so far away, you're not sure you'll ever reach it anyway.

Studies show that 6/10 of us struggle with life and keeping organised.

Work, money and family issues are the most common causes of stress and overwhelm.

Add to that household chores and life in general, you have a recipe for a total meltdown.

Here’s another stat for you: 7/10 of us think our lives have become just ‘too busy’ in recent years.

Now, as much as it might feel like it, the universe doesn’t simply wake up one morning and think, "You know what, let’s make things really miserable from now on. Let’s turn the business factor up to maximum and watch them fail."

It just doesn’t work like that.

As much as you like to think it’s out of your control.

And yep, I agree, at some stages, it feels like that.

The fact is, it really isn’t.

You’re in control. Full stop.

Every little thing that is causing your overwhelming feeling.

Every drain on your time, every stress, every expectation, and every limiting perspective that you place on top of your thinking.

They are all in your control.